Practical Faith for Everyday Life

Learning to Lighten Up

2012-02-06T08:00:00.008-06:00

For the past two months my life has been consumed with doctor appointments. Everything is fine. No, everything is WONDERFUL because I do NOT have breast cancer. (I wanted to lead in with that right off the bat so you wouldn't be worried.) During this time of driving an hour back and forth to the hospital (four separate mammograms, an ultrasound, a MRI, a MRI assisted biopsy, and ultimately a lumpectomy) and waiting on test results from all these procedures I've learned a lot about myself and my faith.

When the doctors first stated that they suspected that I had cancer, I knew that with out any shadow of a doubt that I would be okay (okay as in NOT die). Don't ask me how I knew, I just knew. I guess that's what faith is. I had Psalms 118:17 deep down inside of me screaming "I will not die but live and declare the glory of the Lord."

I distinctly remember standing at the kitchen counter. The nurse called. She told me that I needed to come back for a "second look." She explained that the hospital's machines were more powerful. She told me there was a "suspicious spot." I got off the phone. I posted the appointment on the refrigerator. I prayed - not a long prayer. It wasn't even a faith-filled prayer but it was an honest prayer. I said, "Lord, I just don't want to go through this." After awhile, the verse Matthew 28:20 came to me, "I am always with you." Thank you, Lord but I really wanted to hear John 19:30 "it is finished." With that I knew that this would be something I would just have to walk through. Long or (hopefully) short, I was about to embark on a journey.

These were the things that went through my head in rapid-fire succession:

I don't have time for this. I have Christmas shopping. I have MOPS meetings. I looked at my calendar (yes, for real) and justified the "I just don't have time for this" mentality. In my world if I don't write it down - it does not exist. Period. I have chores. I have homeschooling. Then BAM. Second thought...
I'm homeschooling. How in the heck am I going to homeschool, clean the house, cook supper AND have cancer? I mean, really, breast cancer means LOTS of doctor appointments. Lots of medical bills. Bills we don't have the money for right now. My hospital is an hour away. Breast cancer means tests, surgery, chemotherapy. BAM again. Third thought...
Chemotherapy. Wait, that makes you sick. I don't have time to be sick (yes the time thing again...I know, NO ONE has time to be sick...). Chemo makes you sick. Chemo makes your...hair...fall out. BAM. Fourth thought...
What if my hair falls out? I've worked so hard to grow it out from years of a super-short pixie. It finally looks half-way decent. I don't want it to fall out. I took a deep breath and thought, well if it falls out, it falls out. I'll wear cute scarfs. What if my husband thinks I'm ugly? My husband...BAM. Fifth thought...
My husband. What is he going to do? Is he going to be okay? This is going to be so hard on him. This is going to be especially hard on him. It hasn't been that long since we watched his mother wither and vanish before our eyes from cancer. Can we even speak that word? (Another note: in my world if we don't speak it, it doesn't exist.) Will he be able to bear hearing that dreaded, fearful word? I whispered it, "cancer." Nothing happened.

Every test just resulted in yet another test. The doctor apologized, "cancer is usually so clear, black and white. Either it is or it isn't but your case is different." Well that's of no comfort, I tell you. I just kept telling myself it would be okay- even if I had...swallow hard and whisper...cancer. I told myself it was just a word. I would not fear a word used by doctors to describe a particular set of physical symptoms. It was just a word. I repeated it in my mind and said it out loud, "it's just a word." I know a greater Word. His Word. THE WORD. His word says by His stripes I am healed (1Peter 2:24). His word says He forgives all my sins and heals all my diseases (Psalms 103:3). His Word says I am more than a conqueror (Romans 8:37). His Word says it all works out for my good (Romans 8:28).

Test after test after test. My patience was growing thin. Christmas, then New Year's, more tests. I was still recovering from a surgery in November and felt my body getting weary from the traveling, the waiting, and the wanting it to be over so we could get on with our regular life. Finally the doctor recommended that I have a lumpectomy to remove a pre-cancerous radial sclerosis. My husband and I were actually glad- now we had a plan. We had a solution. Hopefully, we thought, we would have an end to this.

I had surgery last Thursday and after a very long weekend the nurse called. She said the pathology report showed no signs of malignancy. Praise the Lord! She said they had removed the lump and surrounding tissue. I will have a post-op exam next week where I expect the doctor to say that this is indeed all over.

As I write this (ice pack on right breast, ibuprofen within reach) I have to admit that I just don't know how people survive life without faith. It may sound corny, but it truly is "so sweet to trust in Jesus." Life gets messy and sometimes we go though tough times. My husband and I both had such a reassurance that no matter what we went though, it would all be okay. We would adjust. We would overcome (Revelation 12:11). We would triumph (2 Corinthians 2:14). We knew because God says so.

I've also learned that I'm WAY too tied up in defining my life by the tasks that I do. I am not my schedule. I am not my chores. I am not my dozen or so lists. While all my little organization tricks are great, they are just tools that I use. I spent the past two months just being with my family. Some of the chores were left undone, some of the items didn't get checked off the list, we ate a lot of take-out, and you know what? The world did not fall apart. I let people help me and you know what else? It didn't mean I was less of a wife or mother. Now these things may be common sense to you. For me it has been a huge revelation.

When you define yourself by what you do,
you judge yourself by what doesn't get done.

Now, I'm not going to use this as an excuse to get all sloppy and lazy...we can't have total chaos afterall!

I am going to lighten up and
keep trusting my wonderful Lord.

'Tis So Sweet to Trust in Jesus

(lyrics from Timeless Truths)

’Tis so sweet to trust in Jesus,
Just to take Him at His Word;
Just to rest upon His promise,
And to know, “Thus saith the Lord!”
- Refrain:
  Jesus, Jesus, how I trust Him!
  How I’ve proved Him o’er and o’er;
  Jesus, Jesus, precious Jesus!
  Oh, for grace to trust Him more!
Oh, how sweet to trust in Jesus,
Just to trust His cleansing blood;
And in simple faith to plunge me
’Neath the healing, cleansing flood!
Yes, ’tis sweet to trust in Jesus,
Just from sin and self to cease;
Just from Jesus simply taking
Life and rest, and joy and peace.
I’m so glad I learned to trust Thee,
Precious Jesus, Savior, Friend;
And I know that Thou art with me,
Wilt be with me to the end.

Super Easy Life Hacks For A Great New Year ~ 2012 Edition

2012-01-01T06:00:00.002-06:00

Need to simplify? Organize? Are you overwhelmed? Hate resolutions? Me too! Here are some ways that I create order out of chaos:

Messy house? No time for a "deep clean?" Spend just five minutes morning or evening (both- if you're ambitious) picking up the clutter. Keeping the common areas free of clutter goes a long way in making your home appear clean and presentable. Nobody really cares about the dust bunnies behind the TV anyway.
Write EVERYTHING down - on a post-it note, on your smart phone, or on a refrigerator memo board. Keep all your notes in a central location. This way you don't have to rely on your memory on days when you're brain is overloaded.
Turn the TV off and turn the uplifting music on. Even if you're not paying attention to it, what you hear filters in to your heart and mind. Brighten your spirit and you brighten your day.
Drink LOTS and LOTS of water. Water is an inexpensive way to detox and beautify your body. Adequate hydration eliminates waste, lessens allergies, stimulates proper body weight, and moisturizes your hair and skin. Talk about multi-tasking!
Learn to SAY "NO" with confidence and without feeling guilty. Know your limits and enforce your boundaries to keep sane. You don't have to do EVERYthing. Give yourself permission to prioritize according to your family's needs.

To see last year's tips, click here. I wish you a very, very Happy New Year. May God bless you with peace, health, and prosperity.

Nature Fun (MK Import)

2011-11-28T08:00:00.004-06:00

With cooler weather, we are playing outdoors more. We are camping and taking nature walks. To enhance our learning in these recreational activities I purchased these nifty laminated brochures at our local bookstore. I'm sure these will last many, many years. When my son gets older, I hope we can journal all the things we identify.

You know, this is one of my favorite things about homeschooling. Our education is not limited to a classroom and copy work. Learning is fun and we do it all day long, everywhere where we go! How awesome is that? Is it really school when we have this much fun? I am so grateful and blessed to be able to stay home with my son to teach him and watch his discoveries.

What is your favorite part about homeschooling? How often do your take your classroom outdoors? Share your journey with me and join the fun.

A Moment in Meditation

2011-11-24T08:00:00.002-06:00

Love is patient and kind.

NLT 1 Cor 13:4

How do I really love those around me? In the hectic often frustrating details of everyday life it is easy to let things get the best of me. Do I respond to my family with the love of Christ- in patience and with kindness- or am I irritable and short with them? Lord, please help me to treat them as the treasures that they are and to better show Your patience and Your kindness to those around me. Amen

Our New Curriculum (MK Import)

2011-11-22T08:00:00.001-06:00

Back to school time is so exciting! I love shopping for school supplies. Ah the feel of new pens, new folders, and the smell of crayons. Heaven. Yeah- I'm nerdy like that. This year we are doing a Preschool Review through the end of the year. We will start Kindergarten in January. My son just turned four. I figured rather than have two years of one and one year of the other, I could do a year and a half of each. This way we can go slowly. You know - let it sink in. We have short days and take frequent breaks. We took some time off this summer. I doubt I will do that again because he just "lost" too much.

For finishing the year, we will continue to use a combination of Letter of the Week and Joyful Heart. These two programs have provided a great learning experience- for both of us! I've posted before on how much I like both of them. He's having a great time. I'm not to thrilled with all the prep, though.

Sure I know its a part of the job- I just wished I would have invested in printer ink stocks. Man are we going through the cartridges! In the last year alone, I've spent over $400 in just ink and paper. That just stinks, People. Stinks!

Well, that got me thinking (and crying). If I'm going to spend that much I may as well invest in a more "turn key" curriculum for Kindergarten. After much research I decided on Little Hearts For His Glory by Heart of Dakota Publishing.

I was amazed at how many books came with the package. It was VERY reasonably priced too! I just squealed opening the box when it came in. This curriculum is awesome! Very little prep work involved. Thanks to the teacher's guide I don't even have to write out lesson plans. How cool is that?!

I'm confident that this will be a great Kindergarten experience. I will enjoy being able to "school" during the day and spend my evenings relaxing with my family more.
Less work + more fun = happy mom!

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A Moment in Meditation

2011-11-17T08:00:00.002-06:00

Christ Himself has made peace between [us] by making us all one people. He has broken down the wall of hostility that used to separate us. NLT Ephesians 2:14

Am I working toward peace or away from it? Do my words and my actions reflect my desire to love others? How do I react during conflict? Am I creating unity or separation? Lord, help me to live in peace by acting peaceably.

Messy Blessing

2011-11-16T17:39:00.000-06:00

Sometimes, in the hectic day to day tasks, in between the repetitive screams of "Mamma mamma mamma" and the "Honey, where is my ___," and the laundry, and the cooking, and the spilled juice I get caught up in the events of the day. I forget the true purpose of each day. I get frustrated. I get down. And then I remember...

For the rest of this post, please click here where you'll be redirected to my other blog, MommieKate.

Video Resources (MK Import)

2011-11-15T08:00:00.001-06:00

I have (finally) boarded the YouTube train. I know, I know... a little late. Really, I thought it was all about bootleg music videos and weirdo exhibitionists. You know, the DARK side (play sinister music here). Yes, all that's out there and more- but now I have found it to be a wonderful resource for preschool videos, books, music, and mini-lessons. The subscription button is now my friend (that's my tool for weeding out the yucky stuff). I'm passing along some of my favorites. Enjoy!

And one more just for fun!

A Moment in Meditation

2011-11-10T22:02:00.002-06:00

I'm so excited about starting a new series on scripture meditations. For each mini-post, I'll highlight a Bible verse. These are the verses that I contemplate throughout the day. Scripture meditation is a powerful way to practically apply the Word to your daily life and super-charge your faith. I'll begin with a scripture that was stationed on my sidebar for awhile. It makes me re-think my to-do list.

I glorified You on earth by completing down to the last detail what You assigned me to do. MSG John17:4

I am busy, but with what? My own agenda or with His? What's on my to-do list? Is it just busy work or is it really worthwhile? Lord, let me yield to Your will for me. Thank you for giving me the grace and strength to complete the plans and tasks that you have for me.

Super Easy BBQ

2011-10-21T12:49:00.002-05:00

I've posted a recipe over at MommieKate. (It's a part of my #3in30 post.) Come on over for a super delicious, easy- peasy, melt in your mouth and slap-your-mamma pulled pork sammich!

(Okay, don't really slap your Mamma. She's liable to slap you back! It's just a southern expression for sho- nuff real good food.)

What's Missing?

2011-10-20T09:32:00.001-05:00

You’re making an effort to take better care of yourself. Say you’re having a good week: you’ve exercised, eaten nutritious meals, and maybe even had a spa day. Great job! Is something still...missing? To find out, please join me at Living Self Care.

Want to know a secret?

2011-08-24T17:52:00.001-05:00

I have a love/ hate relationship with social media. I love blogging- sometimes. I love reading and learning from other moms in the trenches. I love Twitter, Instagram and Pixoshere. BUT... I'm unreliable, undependable, you just plain can't count on me for regular blog posting. There, you have it: the cold, hard truth. I'm just a blogger wannabe. For the rest of my dirty, little secret click here. You'll be redirected to MommieKate - the fun & fellowship side where I'm currently crying out for time management tips (and a maid).

Joy in the Giving

2011-08-03T16:28:00.000-05:00

Often when we think of Christian love and charity, we think big: mission trips, feeding centers, large sums of money. We think of our local tithes and offerings. We think of the parable of the Widow's Mite. I have found myself thinking of her a lot lately. I think of how in her poverty, she gave all that she had. I think of how her humble heart caught the eye of the Master. I think of how He praised her. I've been contemplating the principles of Godly Giving and whether or not I measure up to His expectations.

While studying I noticed that God expects us to be joyful as well as generous in our giving. I also realized that giving all I have is not just about money. God expects more of me than just my envelope in the offering plate. While I am obedient in my finances, I'm not sure that my giving has honored Him the way that Widow's Mite did.

I want to honor Him so badly- to catch His eye. I want to make Him proud. I want to give ALL. What a lofty goal. So daunting, really. Is it even attainable? Can I really give Him ALL? As I shifted my focus from money, I saw so many other opportunities.

I can smile more, not just when I'm happy. I can smile at the cashier when I'm held up in line because she's changing the tape roll and taking forever. I can smile at the driver who takes my turn at the stop sign. I can smile at my son when he's struggling to do a big boy job all by himself when I could do it so much faster. (I can even smile at these rowdy teenagers who are distracting me while I write this post utilizing free Wi Fi at McDonald's. )

In my routine shopping, I can get a few "extras" for others. I can pick up some extra can goods at the grocery store for the local food bank. I can pick up an extra pack of diapers & wipes for the women's shelter. I can take a book of stamps and some paper to the alcohol & drug treatment center. I can take my old magazines to the nursing home.

I can make (and give Him) better choices. When challenged I can choose mercy. I can choose forgiveness. I can choose patience. I can choose kindness. I can listen patiently as if for the first time when my grandmother repeats the same story for the 100th time. I can be sweet instead of sarcastic when my husband forgets that it's date night and volunteers to work a later shift. I can choose peace instead of arguing my point when a neighbor oversteps her bounds.

I'm learning that giving all I have is so much simpler than I thought. It's so much broader than I imagined. If I choose a positive perspective about it, I can even have fun looking for opportunities to give more, to do more, to truly serve Him in my everyday life. I can give myself, my heart, my obedience as well as my money.

Rolling Out!

2011-06-28T19:44:00.000-05:00

Buckle up, Peeps, we are on the go!

I55 at St. Louis

Road trip! After months of searching we found THE camper that is just perfect for us. We traveled 14 hours (one way) to pick it up. Round trip we traveled over 1600 miles in just three days. Yes, it was exhausting but so worth the trip (I'll dish on the savings later)!

Are we there yet?

I have to brag just a bit- my DS3 was an absolute champ! I wasn't very confident about his ability to endure such a long time in the truck without multiple melt-downs. Heck, I wasn't sure I could endure the trip without multiple melt-downs! He was great! We all had a super time watching the scenery, singing along to the cd player, and visiting with each other. The promise of a nightly swim at the hotel was a great incentive for good behavior, by the way.

Why on earth would we voluntarily embark on such a journey? To save a boat load of bucks, that's why! For us camping is a way that we can vacation without breaking the bank. We can do more, see more, go more often for a lot less money. After a few attempts at tent camping, we decided that sleeping on the ground was not for us. Face it, for me to consider it fun I have to sleep comfortably. I want a cushy bed and air conditioning/heating at the end of the day. A microwave in case of a rained-out campfire helps too!

We researched for months. We had to figure out what we wanted in a camper and balance that with what my husband's truck could haul and with what our budget could handle. When we decided on a few models we started scouting dealers and classifieds. We purchased our camper at Cheyenne Camping Center. Even with what we spent traveling to pick it up, we saved between $5-10,000.00 for what the same model was going for locally. We purchased a brand new 2012 model for LESS than the price of many used ones we saw for sale.

Was this my original plan for seeing the world? No. Sometimes you have to have to adjust. Even when your dream seems impossible I have found that there is always a way, ALWAYS. You just have to be open to new/different paths to getting what you want. Sometimes it turns out even better!

Our adventures begin!

What Faith Can Do - Kutlass

2011-05-30T16:07:00.000-05:00

Be encouraged!

A Proverbs Wife $$$ Tips & Links

2011-03-23T21:18:00.000-05:00

I am super excited to have a guest interview today! Saidah writes at AProverbsWife.com, where she shares her journey in modeling herself after Proverbs 31:10-31. She writes about how scripture molds her into being a better Christian, wife, and mother. You’re sure to be inspired by reading her blog. She also shares some really great coupons and bargains there. You can also find her chatting it up with her readers Facebook and Twitter.

How did you get started clipping coupons and participating in online surveys?

I began using coupons and taking surveys in 2008 as a means to stretch my husband's income. Our budget was extremely tight and I decide to help my husband by being a better steward over our grocery budget. He was totally against me working outside of the home so, instead of trying to make money I decided to start helping us save money. Shortly after learning to use coupons I began investigating ways to make money from home. One of the ways that intrigued me was giving my opinion for compensation. I didn't know if anyone could really make money taking surveys, but once I signed up for my first survey company, I was convinced that it was something I could do. I'd spend a little time each week taking surveys and then cash out at the end of each month.

How much time do you spend per week on the above? If you could put a dollar amount per hour that you spend, what would you estimate earning potential to be?

I don't spend as much time taking surveys anymore because I have other streams of income that require my attention, but when I began I'd spend about 2-3 hours a week taking surveys. In this time I would earn anywhere from $150 - $200 a month. It's not a whole lot, but it allowed me to help put the "budge" back into our budget. Now I make less. In February I made $50 taking surveys.

How do you balance your online activity with your other homemaking responsibilities?

My computer is on a great deal of the day from October - January, simply because there are so many amazing deals and I want my readers to be able to shop for Christmas a frugally as possible. I am a firm believer that with a little bit of planning Christmas gift can be paid for without breaking the budget. I know from experience that it can even be funded for FREE. The remaining months of the year, I pray a lot and talk with my husband about my schedule.

I never feel like I'm balancing well but I do have a schedule. I am a master schedule writer and chief life organizer (in my mind. However, I understand that no amount of scheduling will ever be perfect unless God creates it. This is why I pray regularly for direction and guidance about the way that I use my time, how I interact with my family and about my blog.

How do you find all those amazing deals?

I find many deals right in my inbox. I am partnered with some great affiliate companies and brands who send deals and offers to my inbox daily. I also have amazing blog friends and readers who forward deals to me as well. You'd be surprised to know that I find amazing coupons codes and FREE sample offers in magazines or while watching television. As a blogger who posts deals so often, I don't look at everything the way most people do. I'm always looking for a deal. For instance, while watching a television ad, I heard about a new chicken sandwich variety, but at the end of the commercial I also heard, "Come on in and get a FREE sample". When I find offline deals I usually make a note to confirm them and post the offer on my blog.

What advice would you give to newbies?

To new bloggers I would say make the choice earlier on who you will worship. Blogging can be a popularity contest filled with many "in-crowds". It can also be a field that can put you in a position to be idolized. This being the case, I advise choosing early on to honor God in everything you do. If you decide to monetize your blog never put money before your readers and if you do, be swift to apologize for any lapse in judgment.

What's the most challenging part of your typical week?

The most challenging is balancing it all.

I love time with God.
I love time with my family.
I love homeschooling.
I love blogging.
I love homemaking.

These areas of my life threaten to overtake one another on a daily basis. That's the most challenging part of my week. Keeping everything in it's proper proportion.

What's the most exciting part of your typical week?

It's different every week. One week it could be learning that a company has decided to partner with me on a project. Another week it could be a surprise date night with my husband or a special quiet moment with the Lord. It varies and I'm easily excitable.

What excited me this week was my daughter scoring a 90% on her spelling test for the second straight week. This is huge because she is a delayed reader due to dyslexia. That's what excited me this week.

What role does frugality play in your faith walk?

My family uses every opportunity to save so that we can give more away. We endeavor to be debt FREE because we know that God can't use our finances as long as we are in debt. Our family goal is to live simply and pay off our mortgage so that we can be available for God's use in the international missionary field.

What do you do for "down time" entertainment/ relaxation?

The ultimate downtime is reading the Bible and listening to Christian music. It is the one activity that leaves me rejuvenated and inspired. Other things I enjoy are spending time with my family and gardening. While I'm not that great in the garden, I just like being outdoors close to Gods creation. It humbles me to watch the growth cycle of the earth. Once you've experienced it, it's hard to deny the sovereignty and existence of God.

Website: AProverbsWife offers inspiration, frugal tips and great conversation for living life as today's Proverbs 31 wives & women!

On Twitter: @proverbswife

Visit her frugal community on Facebook

Spring-time Super Savings

2011-03-16T11:12:00.002-05:00

Saving money is high priority around here these days. I'm always looking for ways to make less do more.

photo from Amy Bayliss at pixosphere.com

I'm excited about some new ideas that I'll be sharing with you soon. In the mean time...here are a few links to some of my first posts on ways to save. What will you be doing with your savings?

Frugality is Godly
Ways to Stretch That Dollar! Part 1
Ways to Stretch That Dollar! Part 2
Ways to Stretch That Dollar! Part 3
Coupon Rescue

You Are So Beautiful!

2011-03-03T23:00:00.001-06:00

Someone (besides me) needs to hear this today: you are so beautiful and so very loved! Jesus gave so much just to spend eternity with YOU. The song below just touched my heart so deeply!

This song has touched many hearts, click here to see how it touched my friend Teri Johnson at Keeping it Personal.

I hope you enjoy...

To watch the video click below:

Here are the lyrics from Metro Lyrics:

The days will come when you don't have the strength

When all you hear is you're not worth anything

Wondering if you ever could be loved

And if they truly saw your heart they'd see too much

You're beautiful

You are made so much more than all of this

You're beautiful

You are treasured, You are sacred, You are His

You're beautiful

I'm praying that you have the heart to find

Cause you are more than what is hurting you tonight

For all the lies you've held inside so long

And they are nothing in the shadow of the cross

You're beautiful

You are made so much more than all of this

You're beautiful

You are treasured, You are sacred, You are His

You're beautiful

Before you ever took a breath

Long before the world began

Of all the wonders He possessed

There was one more precious

Of all the earth and skys above

You're the one He madly loves

Enough to die

You're beautiful

In His eyes

You're beautiful

You were meant for so much more than all of this

You're beautiful

You are treasured, You are sacred, You are His

You're beautiful

You're meant for so much more than all of this

You're beautiful

You are treasured, You are sacred, You are His

[ From: http://www.metrolyrics.com/beautiful-lyrics-mercy-me.html ]o

Shine by Salvador (Just Because I Love It)

2011-02-13T19:29:00.001-06:00

I just love this group and this song! That's it...the whole post...just link & lyrics...nothing else. Enjoy!

Click below to hear Shine by Salvador:

Lyrics, courtesy of Gospel Music Lyrics:

I woke up to another day

Another day to celebrate

Your beauty and your mystery

Is more than any eye can see

I'm not the man I was before

With you my life is so much more

Break the chains and open doors

To a world I can't ignore

Chorus:

Lord let me shine

Shine like the moon

A reflection of you

All that I do

Lord let me be

A light for your truth

Light of the world

I want to be used

To shine for you

As simple as a passing smile

Or listening a little while

To someone that's convinced that

They are in this all alone

Well, here's my chance to share the news

To introduce the good that's you

Here you go again,

You never cease to blow my mind

Chorus

You're the love that we all need

You lift us up to our feet,

Hold the key to eternity

The King of Kings alive in me

Healthy Relationships

2011-02-09T08:12:00.001-06:00

Cultivating healthy relationships and eliminating harmful ones is essential to proper self-care. Whether it is with a spouse, child, parent, sibling, friend or co-worker, a healthy relationship is one that is characterized by RESPECT- for us and for the other person.

To finish reading, please click here to visit Living Self Care where I am guest posting today.

Coupon Rescue!

2011-02-02T10:29:00.000-06:00

Ever want to try couponing but are overwhelmed? How to start? Where to go? How much time will it take? Jen Ryan comes to the rescue with her fabulous guest post at Linda Carmical. She saves the rest of valuable time by listing her Top Ten Sites and what she likes about each one. If you ever wanted to give it a go, now's the time!

Click here to begin you money saving adventure!

Guarding Our Heart

2011-01-27T23:02:00.000-06:00

Recently my son and I were singing the "Oh, be careful little eyes what you see..." song. I've been pondering that little song ever since. It's a Sunday school classic- how many times have we heard it? Sang it? Do we live it?

Proverbs 4:23 admonishes us to diligently keep our heart because what goes in ultimately comes back out. It's so easy to forget the importance of guarding our heart. We often get so caught up in the cares of this world that we neglect the truth of the Word (Mark 4:14-20). We keep (or tend) our heart by guarding the gates that open to it: our eyes, our ears, and our tongue. Much of what we see, hear, and speak negatively affect us probably more than we realize. The negativity often manifests in our attitude which affects our emotions, our relationships, and our health- every aspect of our being.

We are cautioned not to be conformed to the norms of this world (Rom 12:2). One of the biggest "norms" that is alarming to me is what we see in the media. All sorts of terrible, ungodly things are depicted quite graphically on mainstream tv and radio. I'm often horrified by what bombards our family on a daily basis- especially in so-called family friendly entertainment. Even commercials are getting more and more offensive... For example, "Mommy what does male enhancement mean?" or "Is Viagra a vitamin?" I mean really, between the news, crime shows, commercials, suggestive teen shows, and crude music lyrics the gates to our eyes and ears are being flooded by the very things God tells us to avoid (1 John 2:15-17).

How many times have you caught yourself humming a tune you heard earlier on the radio or worrying about something you saw on the news? Images can't be un-seen. Sounds can't be un-heard. They persist in your subconscious. Oh how important it is to guard what comes in! While we can't bury our heads in the sand, we can drastically limit what comes in our homes with a simple flick of the off button.

Another "norm" seems to be worry and anxiety. Worry is such a dangerous habit that Jesus COMMANDED us not to do it (Matt 6:25-34 and Josh 1:9). We cannot stand in faith and be anxious at the same time. Fear and faith do not mix. Worry is so automatic that we have to re-train ourselves to trust in Him instead. To counteract negativity, God advises us to meditate on His Word (Josh 1:8) . He encourages us to think about positive and happy things (Philp 4:8).

Singing that song reminded me to take seriously the things my family and I expose ourselves to. I am encouraged to be more mindful of what we're seeing and hearing--and subsequently meditating on.

Bible Links courtesy BibleGateway.com.

Simple Strategies For Self-Care

2011-01-12T08:08:00.002-06:00

I am thrilled to announce that I am guest posting today at Living Self Care. This is a fabulous site dedicated to helping women take better care of themselves. To learn some of the ways that I squeeze in "me time" in my busy day click here.

I really would appreciate the visit and some blog hugging comments on my (squeal!) very first guest post. See you there!

Just for Fun

2011-01-04T15:16:00.005-06:00

I'm thinking about using my other blog, MommieKate for my FUN side. I could do my blog hops there and post photographs-things, you know- a little less "practical." There are so many of you that have social hops. Having an additional blog dedicated to the more fun stuff will help me participate without compromising the ideal of this site. I'll still be posting my tips and faith-related thoughts here. I hope you'll "follow" both spots. Thank you! I truly appreciate your visit!

To read my latest posts on homeschooling,
click here for Report Card Time and
click here for Sensory Bins are Magic.

For Fitness click here.

For 3in30 click here.

Super Quick and Easy Life Hacks for a Happy New Year

2010-12-30T11:43:00.001-06:00

Many people this time of year reflect upon the past year and look ahead with new goals, resolutions, or at the very least: wishes for improvement. I have a confession. I don't really make New Year resolutions. Not that I'm perfect, I just get bogged down in the details...and the guilt when I don't fulfill them. Why set my self up for failure? (All though I have heard that writing them down and breaking them up into attainable steps works. Hey, wait- I already do some of that with housekeeping. Keep reading. You'll see.) Sometimes I just take the easy way out.

Here are some of my "easy way out" strategies. Some of them require just a tiny bit of effort on the front end. Over time, they really save me BIG in time, effort, and money. Some keep me healthy. Heck, some of them even make me look better!

Post a grocery list on the refrigerator. Not on the counter. Not in your head. Put it ON the fridge. Whether you use a dry erase board, a pre-printed list, or a plain ol' piece of paper (that's what I do), you can quickly post grocery items as you run out. Train the kiddos and hubby to do it too. This really does help eliminate forgotten items and trips back to the store. Now, if you really want to save yourself in the long run, take the time to organize your pantry. Don't go all Martha Stewart, just put all the cans of tomato soup together. (No offense, Martha, its just that most of us don't have have a staff to help and tons of money to spend on closet hardware.) Group like items together. At one quick glance you can see what you have and what you need to add to the grocery list.
Speaking of your pantry, as you run out of items replace them with the healthier, less processed version when you're at the store. One by one you're feeding your family more nutritious meals. You're not throwing food out either-wasting money. It's not so overwhelming this way. Small steps can make good habits last longer.
Keep a small notepad in your purse. I use the notepad on my iPhone. Train yourself to jot everything down. This way you can keep track of errands you need to run, gifts you need to purchase, items you need to add to the grocery list, etc. Not everybody is a list maker, I know, but it does eliminate that feeling of, "I know there was one more thing but I just can't remember." This way you can save room in your brain for the really important stuff!
If you have trouble finding time to spend with God, break it up into smaller, do-able chunks during the day. See my post on How I Abide In Him for easy ideas.
Trying to get your house in order (especially after Christmas guests, and kids home on school holiday) can seem impossible. Focus on smaller tasks. Spend just 10-15 minutes once or twice a day on the trouble spots and you'll be organized in no time. This is how I keep my housekeeping chores from getting away.
If you're having a hard time exercising, this one is for you! At least three times a week, put on some great music, set the timer for 15 minutes, grab the kids and dance your buns off. March, run, jump, dance- whatever- just go all out for 15 minutes. Increase your time as your endurance builds. What's better than having fun with the kids and getting a good cardio workout too?
Lay out your clothes (and the kids') the night before. You'll be amazed at the time this saves in the morning. No more "what to wear?" No more wasting precious time trying on things. No more fights with the kids. I layout my clothes on Sunday night for the week ahead. No kidding, I do! Use an over-the-door hook or just put those outfits together in the first space of your closet rod.
Even if you're a stay at home mom, you need to have at least one "go-to" outfit ready. It doesn't have to be fancy, just something that says "I'm fabulous." You'll feel fabulous too running errands in something other than sweats. Jeans and a trendy top (those tattoo t-shirts hide stains) paired with cute low-heels and big earrings are a must. Don't spend much. You can pull together a great, yet inexpensive outfit at most discount or dollar stores if you take the time to look. I'm serious about the big (preferably hoop) earrings. My theory is that they draw attention away from the dark circles under my eyes.
Keep those dry trouble spots smooth with a stick moisturizer. (I've been using one made by Palmer's but Santa left Heel-Tastic in my stocking. I like it too.) You can find one in the health & beauty section EVERYWHERE. Keep it by your bedside or by your toothbrush if you have trouble remembering (like me) to use it. I swipe my heels, knees and elbows in the morning and the evening. It's a five second spa treatment with no greasy hands!
Just like the go-to outfit, I have a quick go-to makeup routine for the days I want to look put together but just don't have the time. Tinted moisturizer + Lip Crayon + Mascara = Instant (but super quick) GLAM. Use a mocha or mauve lip crayon in the crease of your eyelids and blend with your fingertips. With the residue from your fingertips, swipe along your cheek bones. If you use a waterproof mascara, you can use the crayon underneath your lower lashes for a soft liner affect. Of course, don't forget your lips! With only three products and your fingers you can be gorgeous in less than three minutes. Really- three minutes!

These tips are so simple yet can revolutionize your day to day routine. I'd love to hear some of your short cuts and ideas! Let me know if you try mine and how it goes. Why should getting organized, living healthy and looking great be expensive or hard?

How To Survive Loss During The Holiday Season

2010-12-24T04:15:00.003-06:00

You were expecting something more festive, right? I know, jingle bells and all...but tragedies don't wait for convenient dates on the calender. Grief and coping with loss can be even more difficult when everyone else is celebrating. I write this post hoping to help if you or someone you know is experiencing a loss or crisis. It can be so hard but you can survive. I know because I did...and this is part of my story.

Last year between Christmas and New Year my unborn baby died. For several days our world stood still while we waited to see a heartbeat. We had seen it just two weeks before- blinking like a Christmas tree light. And then nothing, only silent stillness on a sonogram. The last thing I remember before surgery was trying so hard not to sob and wondering what in the world had caused that sweet little light to quit blinking. While everyone else was celebrating my husband and I were grieving. For weeks after, we waited on negative test results to rule out a rare form of cancer. I want to share what I learned through the healing process. Maybe it can give you a little hope. Or at least I want to let you know that you're not alone. Someone knows and cares that your heart is breaking. I do and that's why I'm offering what worked for me. Use what you can and dismiss the rest.

Allow yourself to grieve. Forget the stiff upper chin. You don't get extra points for suffering in silence. It's okay to show your hurt. Whether its death, divorce, or a pink slip: loss HURTS and pretending that it doesn't helps no one. That being said, you can't wallow in it forever either. We had a private memorial service at Church one week after my surgery. I let myself cry and mourn that week but had determined that once the service was over I WOULD BEGIN TO HEAL. It's important to allow yourself to move forward.
Hit the autopilot button. I had a hard time dealing with people's (mostly stupid) statements so I just went into robot mode and mechanically replied "thank you for your prayers" to whatever comment was offered. I figure that most people don't mean to be hurtful- they just truly don't know what to say. Side note: if your loved one has a miscarriage DO NOT say things like "something was probably wrong with it anyway," "at least you didn't get to hold it," or "did the doctor say what you did wrong?" Just say "I'm sorry for your loss. I'll be praying for you."
Quit asking "why." Talk about it with a friend or a professional but don't get stuck in the "why" stage. There may be a medical reason that can physically help you; however, there is no emotionally acceptable or comforting answer. Bad things happen. Very bad things happen and trying to make sense out of the senseless only tortures you and prolongs your pain. I remember crying out to God. I didn't get a reason why but I did get reminded that He knew exactly how it felt to lose a child.
Resume your daily routines- whether you feel like it or not. Staying engaged is essential to keep short term grief from turning into long term depression. Shower, eat, work, exercise. Don't give up on life just because you're hurting. Don't give up on God, either- even if your faith is wavering. Keep plugging along. Keep moving forward. Baby steps count! You'll get a little bit stronger and better everyday. You will get better.
Realize that you won't ever get over it but you will move past it. There is a difference. It is vitally important to remember that while the feelings of loss and sadness will remain, the intense pain will one day subside. Don't feel guilty for beginning to get better, for enjoying others, and life again, or for growing beyond the grief. Life never stands still. Everything changes: the good, the bad- it all moves along.

Every one's process and time is unique. Don't push yourself too fast or too hard. Don't beat yourself up- for feeling bad or for feeling good. Emotions vary- it's normal. If you think you are not getting better or if you ever think about harming yourself or others, PLEASE GET HELP. Your pastor, doctor, or mental health care center can direct you to available resources.

Over the past two years my husband and I have experienced several losses. I still cry a little sometimes. I am still healing. I'm still growing. You will too.

HomeSchool Preschool ROCKS!

2010-10-25T21:41:00.003-05:00

Six weeks ago I officially joined the many who have decided (at least for now) to educate my son at home. Let me just say: IT IS AWESOME! I admit, I didn't feel that way at first. I was excited and then (while doing endless internet research) it hit me. Hit me hard. I mean, this is one of the biggest decisions that will affect my little boy FOR LIFE. I started to panic. Have you seen the ka-zillion choices out there? There are so many different education styles and ten times that in curriculum choices. I became overwhelmed. Nauseated even. And then...

I found some lovely blogs that helped bring me back to "OK, I can do this" state. More on them later (plus links). While I am in no way an expert, I did figure out a few things over the summer. Here is a summary of my Crash Course for Home School Newbies:

Start with the legalities. Find out what the laws are in your state. This will help guide you through your curriculum choices. You may not even want or need a curriculum. My state is one that has few requirements and gives parents great freedom.
Consider your own skills and limitations as well as your family's. Do you follow a tight schedule, a flexible routine, or do you fly by the seat of your pants? Are you creative? Do you need the guidance of a curriculum? How much guidance? What is your budget? I chose mine based on flexibility and budget.
What support will you have? Is your spouse on board? Will he be able to help - to what degree? Is there a homeschooling group in your area? I joined a local Christian HS group to get ideas & guidance from veteran parents and for the field trip opportunities.
Have a firm idea of why you want to pursue this. You will want it in neon flashing lights. I'm not kidding- it starts with the curriculum choices, the HOURS of prep work, and ends with a lot of negative questions and comments from others. It's fun, it's rewarding, but it is HARD WORK.
Relax and keep it all in perspective. Nothing is set it stone. You will explore and change styles, methods, and curriculum many times as you grow and your school days go by. You'll learn as you go. You may even change your mind all together about home education. Homeschooling is ALL ABOUT FLEXIBILITY and doing what is best for each stage of your family's life.

Don't stress. Trust God to guide you. Trust yourself. Have fun.

I want to give blog hugs to Sue, thehomeschoolchick and to Erica at confessionsofahomeschooler. These ladies gave me confidence, a place to start, and shared a sense of humor in the process. They have great links to other helpful sites. If you are homeschooling you probably already know them. If you are still in the consideration stage, go check out their sites- you'll be glad you did. Also, to find out your state's laws visit http://www.hslda.org/laws/default.asp. HAPPY HOMESCHOOLING!

For more great links check out the Hip Homeschool Blog Hop:

iFellowship

2010-08-25T12:53:00.004-05:00

Please be patient with me while I get the hang of this blog hop!
I hope you'll join me. Click above.

I'm Diving In !

2010-08-23T13:33:00.001-05:00

The inspiration for this post comes from a song that we sang in Church this past Sunday. I'll include the lyrics and a link for the video below this post. I hope you'll take a moment to listen.

Sometimes (even though I know better) I walk the line. You know that line. It's the line between faith and doubt. The line between trying to be superwoman and freaking out because I'm not. It's the line between trying so hard be balanced and being irritable because NOTHING falls into place. It's the line between walking in the ways of this world and living in the Kingdom of our Lord. I've learned the hard way you can't be in two places at one time- mentally or physically.

I have to be reminded to get off the fence and just go on over. Dive in. Jump in with BOTH feet. Forget trying to do it all. " Seek ye first His Kingdom..." This applies to everything. From His Kingdom to my daily routine. I have to dive in and be fully immersed in each moment in order to fully appreciate and truly enjoy them. We face this choice with every moment: running errands, planing meals, work, chores, playtime. It's so easy to get caught up in multi-tasking that we loose the joy in everyday life.

Today I am making the choice to dive in and to stay in each moment, each task, and each experience. Jump in with me!

Listen & Watch Video Here

Dive by Steven Curtis Chapman

(Lyrics courtesy Christian Lyrics Online)

Rom. 11:33-36; Eph. 3:16-19

The long awaited rains

Have fallen hard upon the thirsty ground

And carved their way to where

The wild and rushing river can be found

And like the rains

I have been carried here to where the river flows, yeah

My heart is racing and my knees are weak

As I walk to the edge

I know there is not turning back

Once my feet have left the ledge

And in the rush I hear a voice

That’s telling me it’s time

to take the leap of faith

So here I go

I’m diving in, I’m going deep in over

my head, I want to be

Caught in the rush, lost in the flow,

in over my head, I want to go

The river’s deep, the river’s wide,

the river’s water is alive

So sink or swim, I’m diving in

There is a supernatural power

In this might river’s flow

It can bring the dead to life

And it can fill an empty soul

And give a heart the only thing

Worth living and worth dying for, yeah

But we will never know the awesome power

Of the grace of God

Until we let ourselves get swept away

Into this holy flood

So if you’ll take my hand

We’ll close our eyes and count to three

And take the leap of faith

Come on let’s go

How I Abide in Him

2010-07-26T14:54:00.004-05:00

I am the vine, ye are the branches: He that abideth in me, and I in him, the same bringeth forth much fruit: for without me ye can do nothing. (KJV) John 15:5

For so long I knew that verse to mean I am nothing without Jesus. While that is true on a certain level, there is so much more. Meditate on that verse. Dig deeper. Ponder it awhile...

He supplies me. If He lives in me and I remain in Him, I am fruitful. I am productive. I am successful. It is Christ that gives me what I need to accomplish the life before me. He works in me. He works through me. Have you ever wondered how? Have you ever felt like it wasn't working? Why?

It's that word "abide." There's the key. I must abide in Him. From experience let me tell you that you cannot abide in Him with just a weekly Church service and a nightie-nite prayer. Abide means to dwell, live, remain, endure. It's a pretty weighty word. Now it seems complicated- almost daunting. Like any other relationship, it does take time. There is just no way around it. It doesn't; however, have to be complicated. Trying to set aside a particular block of time was not working for me. I ended up overwhelmed, discouraged, and feeling guilty because it was a task I couldn't accomplish. That's just it, though. Jesus is not a task. He is a person. One who wants you to actually ENJOY time with Him. If spending time with our Lord has been difficult for you, don't give up! I de-mystified and simplified. Making small adjustments in my routine has made all the difference in the world for me. Let me show you what I mean...

I do five very simple things every day to keep in touch with Jesus. These things don't take much time at all when I spread them throughout my day.

Morning Devotion. I use From Faith to Faith by Kenneth & Gloria Copeland. You can purchase the book or view it for free online. They will even email it to you upon request. I have the link on my iPhone so I can view it anytime/ anywhere.
Daily Scripture Meditation. The Wonderful Names of Our Wonderful Lord is an excellent one minute devotion by Charles Hurburt and T.C. Horton. While it is available in paperback, I use the mobile version on my iPhone.
Scripture Confession. I have compiled a notebook of scriptures that I recite out loud throughout the day. I rotate them. One day I'll say the ones on health, then one day on parenting, one day on finances. You get the idea.
I pray all day long. Not the stop what you're doing, formal kind of prayers- hardly! I say the "Good Morning Lord! Help me face the day" kind of prayer. You know: like,"O Lord, show me how to handle this." "Son is jumping on my last nerve, what do You want me to do with him? "Thank you for putting the milk on sale!" I talk to God all day long like I would to my husband, my friends, or anyone else. I'm not disrespectful but I am familiar.
Evening Bible Time. Yes, yes, you know me well... I have an iPhone app for that too! (Face it: its just FUN that way!) I like the Robert Roberts plan. Two- Four chapters a night takes all of 15 minutes.

Of course, if you can do more that's great. If not, do what you can. Jesus knows and He understands. Keeping it simple, fun, and weaving it into my minute-by-minute daily routine has made it do-able for me. My faith is no longer an ideal. It is PRACTICAL. It is real and IT WORKS.

What You May Not Know...One Lovely Blog Award

2010-07-23T11:58:00.003-05:00

I would like to thank Tonya at http://www.redheadthoughts-tonya.blogspot.com/ for giving me the One Lovely Blog Award! I feel so very special. And happy. And (shhhhh...whisper it) popular. It's so encouraging to know that people actually look at my blog - and like it. I'm thrilled!

The rules are as follows: You thank the person who nominated you, share eight things about yourself that others may not know, and pass the award on to another blogger whom you love.

Did you know...?
1. I could eat Mexican food for EVERY meal, EVERY day, FOREVER.
2. I also have red hair. Auburn, really-with highlights to cover extremely premature gray. (OK, not THAT premature.)
3. If you want to bribe me, I can be bought cheap with a Vanilla Dr. Pepper from Sonic (Happy Hour prices from 2pm-4pm if anyone is driving by and coming my way. Just saying...)
4. I'm a late bloomer. Married at 35. Miracle Son at 37. Good things take time so don't be in such a rush.
5. Prior to this domestic bliss, I would have been the least likely person you would think would enjoy such a life. Homemaking was the farthermost thing on my radar. Who knew?
6. Except for the indulgence of eating out (where nutrition rules are flung out the window once a week), we eat no refined sugar. NONE. NADA. Not even corn syrup, dextrose, or anything that can not be easily spelled or pronounced.
7. I'm not a materialistic person. Really, I'm not- but I am so totally into my iPhone. How did I live without it? There is an app for EVERYTHING. It has my phone, my datebook, my music, my Bible, my recipes, my photos, AND I can surf the web. How great is that?  My husband thinks I love it as much as I love him. I don't but almost. OK, I do. Not really, but sort of.
8. Speaking of iPhone: I am obsessed with Words With Friends.

Now that you know ALL about me, go visit Suzie Q at http://imarriedamoronandsurvived.blogspot.com/. I am passing this award to her. She is AMAZING. Her blog is sure to inform and inspire you.

Chic Click Carnival

2010-07-19T10:31:00.002-05:00

I am so excited about participating in the Chic Click Carnival hosted by Chic Chick Media. My site is all about saving money, living simply, and enjoying the Blessings of our Lord. If you've read some of my first posts about saving money, you know I LOVE coupons! Sooooooo...

Today I am featuring my favorite peep of the week: Valerie, TheCuteCouponer. I found out about her blog over at BlogFrog. Loving coupons, I had to go visit her site at http://www.thecutecouponer.blogspot.com. Look though her archives for some great ways to save when shopping. While you're browsing, check out Visit Our Peeps. Have Fun!

Thank You

2010-07-17T14:33:00.002-05:00

I have been exploring the Blog World and social media sites this summer. All I can say is, "WOW!" No, that's not all I can say but it is a good summary. There are all sorts of places to visit and people to meet. For the most part, this has been SO MUCH FUN. (I've seen some things I could live without... you take the good /dismiss the bad.) I had no idea what I was in for when I started blogging. I guess I didn't know what to expect. What would people think? I started so sheepishly and somewhat apprehensive about connecting with virtual strangers.

Since then, I've joined Google Friends, Twitter, Twitter Moms, and BlogFrog. I have met so many wonderful people. Through the Blogs and Communities I've read your stories: laughed, cried, admired, and learned so much. Some of you have even "followed" me in some way or another. I want to thank you for putting yourselves out there. Thank you for welcoming me when I did. I have genuinely enjoyed getting to know you. Thank you for sharing yourselves and your stories.

Sunshine Blog Award

2010-06-21T19:33:00.005-05:00

Yippee! Big Fat Mama at http://www.cookingupfaith.com has given me the Sunshine Blog Award. Is that cool, or what? You really have no idea how much that means to me! Thank you so much!


Winners are asked to select 12 other recipients to pass on their awards. Selecting only twelve is TOUGH! Here are my selections- in no particular order:

   http://www.redheadthoughts-tonya.blogspot.com
   http://www.homemakerchronicles.com
   http://www.twinkiemommie.blogspot.com
   http://www.embracinghome.com
   http://www.bobjenjack.blogspot.com
   http://www.showmemama.blogspot.com
   http://www.incourage.me
   http://www.mamaondgo.blogspot.com
   http://www.thehomeschoolchick.com
   http://www.loveshinesforall.blogspot.com
   http://www.faithbarista.com
   http://www.bylittlehands.typepad.com

I encourage you to check out these amazing blogs. Thanks again to Big Fat Mama!

Winners may cut & paste then pass on to their twelve choices.

To Love One Another

2010-06-14T14:53:00.002-05:00

The inspiration for today's post comes from Big Fat Mama over at http://www.cookingupfaith.com/. For the past 21 days she has been focusing on and blogging about John 15. Her posts for days 20 and 21 just spoke to my heart in such a profound way that I found myself thinking about it throughout the day. After the birth of her fourth child she started experiencing anxiety and sought the Lord about how to deal with it. She writes:

Then I was able to take a little drive with just myself and God. I drove and saw hills in front of me with the sun setting and I had this thought -
What if I didn't try to control people?
What if I didn't try to control every situation in my life?
What if I didn't worry about if I was doing or being enough all the time?
What if I let go of my grudges?
What if all I did was love God and love others? What would that be like?

It would be pretty nice. And if all I did at the end of the day was love God and love others I would have done enough.

"I have loved you even as the Father has loved me. Live within my love. When you obey me you are living in my love, just as I obey my Father and live in His love. I have told you this so that you will be filled with my joy. Yes, your cup of joy will overflow! I demand that you love each other as much as I love you. And here is how to measure it - the greatest love is shown when a person lays down his life for his friends; and you are my friends if you obey me." John 15: 9-14

If we really grasped how much God loves us we would have no fear, no guilt, no loneliness, no self-serving attitude. Our joy would overflow! When we stop trying to fulfill ourselves with the worldlythings, and let God, the only one who can genuinely love us, then we can start being productive and He can use us for his glory. Big Fat Mama

WOW! I've probably read those scriptures countless times. I know we are supposed to love God and love others. I know that our obedience to Christ is a reflection of His love. Its the JOY part that I've missed all this time. You cannot be joyful and anxious at the same time. Really, truly, deeply practicing this love results in obedience and JOY. Receiving HIS love is JOY. Showing HIS love is JOY.

Sometimes I get so caught up in my own head. I complicate things. Not only in my daily routine but also in my devotional time. Am I doing enough? Am I doing it right? What if I'm missing something? What if while I'm doing this I should be doing that? It is hard to experience God's peace when we are constantly trying to measure up and wondering if we're falling short. So often I feel like it is never enough, like I'm never enough. I never identified that feeling as anxiety or controlling but IT IS. It is also self imposed condemnation. Sure, our motives are good: we are supposed to love and care for our families and their needs. That's okay. In the striving to do it well, I find that I cross over to perfection- as though somehow if its not all perfect it means that I love them less. I know...its crazy. At least I am sane enough to remind myself to lighten up. That nagging feeling persists, though - even if it is in the background.

Her posts reeled me in, so to speak. It is that simple: its about the love - that's all. Love - period. When I focus on the love of Christ the details of my life will fall into place. Thank you, Big Fat Mama for sharing your journey. Sound revelation of God's love - of the JOY of God's love - erases all doubt. God's love is enough. My living out that love is enough. His love makes me enough.

I encourage you to hop over to her site to read through her journey. I'm sure you will be blessed by it.

Just For Me

2010-06-04T23:01:00.001-05:00

   I am so excited! I'm learning my way around Twitter. I've resurrected my blog - with some spiffy additions to spice things up! I joined some groups - wow- there is so much out there. I am having so much FUN. It feels good to (finally) be able to spend some time on my own pursuits.
   We all know that we're supposed to take "me time," to be good to ourselves, to nurture our spirits and such. Knowing and practicing are two entirely different things I have found! I know I'm not alone in this. I read so much about finding balance. Lately, I've had trouble just finding "me." We get so caught up in being a wife, a mother, a teacher, a home-keeper, a cook, a daughter, a friend, a worker, a volunteer, etc. that we loose site of how important it is to be "me." We spend all our energy and our time (well spent, of course) on our families & we just run out for ourselves. It seems that there is ALWAYS something or someone demanding our attention. While that is true and we MUST take care of our families and our homes, we MUST take care of ourselves.
   I'm not talking about healthy eating, exercise, prayer time. All that is VITAL to a healthy, happy and long life. This is different, though. I'm talking about FUN. Taking a few moments to enjoy something that is just for us - all to ourselves. Maybe for you it is a bubble bath (not a quickie shower but an indulgent, long soak). For some it may be a long awaited curl-up with a good book. Tonight, for me, it is computer time. Tomorrow it will be a McD frappe. I'm going to take at least 15-30mins EVERY day to do something just for me. My goal/mantra will be "I will not feel guilty and I will not get sidetracked. I will BE me- just me, for me." Thirty minutes is hardly selfish.
   Ladies, we deserve it and we need it. I dare say it will reflect in a refreshed and improved attitude. Have you ever looked up one day and realized you had lost a part of yourself? Is it difficult for you to set aside time for yourself? If so let me challenge and encourage you to take some time HAVING FUN. Reconnect with hobbies/interests. I want to hear your goals. If you are already "balanced," I'd love to hear how you do it. Let me know how you take care of yourself. What does your "me time" involve?

Try Try Again

2010-05-31T12:15:00.004-05:00

Finally, at the urging of many friends I have entered the world of Twitter. If I say its overwhelming does that make me look like an idiot? Don't even get me started on the whole Facebook thing. I'm all about keeping it simple and this looks like WORK. Friends say once I get the hang of it, it WILL get easier. Face it, I can't even keep up with my own blog! Now I'm twittering (ok that just doesn't even sound right)!

My family's world has been a little wild and upside down lately. We're (I'm) getting back on track now. Things I'm currently working on:

Learning the whole Social Networking thing
Better time management
Adding exercise into my daily routine
Potty training toddler boy

If you can relate to this or have suggestions, let me know!

Realistic Expectations

2010-02-09T12:19:00.002-06:00

You know that I am all about keeping things simple. Too much stuff (mental or material) complicates life and leads to stress overload. We get irritable, we procrastinate, the downward spiral seems unending. Rather than New Year resolutions I am trying to evaluate what has and has not worked for me this past year. Updating this blog on a monthly basis is more realistic than weekly right now. God first, family second...then everything else. Liberating indeed.

Priorities

2009-11-01T20:02:00.004-06:00

It seems like FOREVER since I have had the opportunity to sit at the computer. The feeling that there is never enough time prompts me to discuss it in this latest post. In the valiant effort to keep the house clean, get the laundry done, stock the groceries, pay the bills, etc., it is so easy to let the really important things slip. In our never ending to-do list, have we forgotten our Lord, our spouse, our children? Sure we spend time with them but are we really with them - engaged in them or just beside them? My two year old is growing at lightening speed. It hurts to know that his requests for "rock me, please" will be less and less as he matures. So I spend 30 extra minutes in the rocker with him, so the house is not perfect, so I get up a little earlier tomorrow to make up the slack...so what. These precious moments remind me to get my priorities straight. What is on the top of your to-do list? Bump it for extra prayer time with God, a picnic with your kids, a movie with your husband, coffee with your mum - the chores will wait.

Ways To Stretch That Dollar! Part Three

2009-08-24T11:49:00.005-05:00

Part Three... Even More Ways To Save

MAKE YOUR OWN CLEANING SUPPLIES. This is cheap and so easy. There are several good recipes on the net but I will post my own soon. You probably already have these things in your pantry: vinegar, salt, baking soda, olive oil, and lemon to name a few! OK, so you are not into "home made," go to the dollar store. Supplies are much less there than at the market.
CREATE A PATIO GARDEN. Even if you do not have a large yard you can still enjoy fresh vegetables from container planting. Tomatoes, squash, cucumbers, peppers, and herbs do well in tight places. Healthy and thrifty - what could be better?
MINIMIZE DINNING OUT. Brown bagging lunch saves a TREMENDOUS amount of money over the course of a year. So does cooking and eating your evening meals at home. Enjoy your family time at the table. Face it, you can not get COMFORT food at a fast food joint. When you do go out, train the kids to pick from the dollar menu. You will be amazed at the amount of money that is suddenly available in your budget.
While you are cooking, MAKE ENOUGH TO FREEZE FOR LATER. I also buy the family packs of meat when they are on sale. It only takes a few minutes to break them down into smaller portions and it saves a bundle! My freezer and zip baggies keep my kitchen going!
CUT ENTERTAINMENT EXPENSE by going to the morning or mid-day show instead of the evening movie. Eat before you go to avoid killer prices on snacks at the concession stand. Rent a few a month instead and you will save even more. FAMILY GAME NIGHTS are more fun for us than movies and the games are things we have already purchased for the kids.

Ways To Stretch That Dollar! Part Two

2009-08-10T10:42:00.005-05:00

Part Two Contains Ways I Save Around The House

Use a DIGITAL THERMOSTAT that you can program. I cut my electric bill in half and my house is comfortable all year long. We spent $25 and approximately 30 minutes installing and programming the digital thermostat. It was so easy and the savings have been HUGE!
CAULK WINDOWS & DOORS. I don't mean seal them shut - just around the facings where all the cracks are. If you see daylight - you are throwing money away. You may need a rubber or foam threshold at the bottom of your doors. Can you hear your father yelling "shut the door, we are not cooling the whole neighborhood!"? It is the same thing. Keep your warm/cool air inside and the bugs outside. It costs around ten bucks and could take a couple of hours depending on how many doors and windows you have.
AVOID IMPULSE BUYING. Do you absolutely have to get that blouse? Sleep on it a few days. Most of the time I decide I really don't want or need whatever it was that SEEMED so important at the time.
Better yet - DO NOT GO shopping unless you have a list. Hitting the stores when you are bored is a bad, bad, bad idea. If you know you have a problem with sticking to a budget, do not invite unnecessary temptation.
UTILIZE THE PUBLIC LIBRARY for entertainment. It is not just for books - you can check out videos too. Many libraries have reading/craft programs for young children and "how-to" workshops for adults. Super cheap fun!

Ways To Stretch That Dollar! Part One

2009-08-03T13:08:00.004-05:00

Part One Contains Ways I Save On Groceries

CLIP COUPONS. I do not have time to search the endless internet for all coupons. I use only three online sources: P&G ESaver http://www.pgesaver.com/Sites/PG_eSAVER/Page/HomePage , Shortcuts http://shortcuts.com/ , and CellFire http://www.cellfire.com/ . These are great because I can download them directly to my Kroger card - SUPER EASY. I get the rest from the Sunday edition of my local paper. At first, clipping coupons was very time consuming. Once I got the hang of it, I streamlined the process. Now, I never spend more than 30 minutes a week on clipping and organizing my coupons. Considering what I save it is absolutely worth my time.
PLAN AHEAD. I make a list and I stick to it. I meal plan two weeks ahead of time so I can make a list according to my coupons and the weekly sale paper. My list helps me avoid impulse buying and the meal plan helps me avoid wasting food.
STORE REWARDS CARDS. Sign up for a saver or reward card at your market. Many items on sale give an extra discount only to card holders. My local Kroger has a gas station. I save on food and an average of ten cents per gallon on fuel.
SKIMP ON CONVENIENCE ITEMS & JUNK FOOD. It costs a fortune & is soooo unhealthy.
DOLLAR STORES are a great place to save on toiletries, food storage items, and cleaning supplies. I rarely purchase non-food items at the grocery store.

These five things alone save me $20-$75 each trip plus I get the bonus of saving at the gas pump too!

Frugality Is Godly

2009-07-28T15:19:00.007-05:00

Face it: most of us have limited resources. The paycheck goes only so far. When we spend money on frivolous items we may run the risk of shorting later on the necessities. Using a budget can allow you to prioritize both wants and needs. We want to make the most of our money for our families, right? Making the most of and doing the most good with what you have is called stewardship. God is very clear that He will supply our needs (Philp 4:19); however, He expects us to maximize what He gives us. We are to give back a portion to provide for the needs of others (1 Cor 16: 1&2 and Mal 3:8-12). We are to demonstrate responsibility with what He has given us (1 Cor 4:1-2 and Lk 16:10-13). Since our homemaking tasks are ultimately unto the Lord (Col 3:23-24), we should carefully consider using and sticking to a budget. Juggling the family budget can be quite a chore but worthy of our hard work. The natural payoff: more for our family. The supernatural payoff: God blesses our obedience. Even if our spouses or children do not appreciate or cooperate with bugeting, the Lord sees our effort (Heb 4:13) and rewards it (Prov 14:23).

Five Reasons To Live With Less

2009-07-26T22:57:00.006-05:00

Stewardship Lessons From a Reformed Pack Rat

More stuff equals more chaos. Clutter is visually distracting and physically stressful. It adds to sensory OVERLOAD. I don't practice feng shui but common sense tells you one can't relax in a crowded, unorganized mess.
The more we have, the more we have to maintain what we have. It is a vicious cycle of time, energy and resources. We have to clean it, store it, fix it... TOO CONSUMING.
Save money by not spending it on MORE STUFF. Start a Christmas Club account instead! Think of how much you'd have at the end of the year.
Living with less frees us: less baggage emotionally and physically. Less stuff=more time & money=less guilt.
If I save EVERYTHING, then NOTHING is special. Treasures are meant to be seen and enjoyed not packed away in the closet or attic. Trust me- your children will not want to be burdened with dealing with all your junk when you die.
Bless others from your overabundance. Who really needs 48 pairs of shoes anyway? So many people could really benefit from things that are accumulated and never used in other more fortunates closets.

Oh Boy!

2009-07-24T22:22:00.004-05:00

Oh Boy! Although I've used the internet quite a bit for research and shopping, up until a few months ago I had never even visited a blog site. Now, here I am writing my own! I'm not yet sure how this all works but I'll learn. I'm not even sure anyone cares what I have to say, but...

I'd like to use this site to help other women with faith for everyday issues. I want to share what I've learned about applying biblical teachings to my daily life - especially being a wife and mother. Life's not always easy and I appreciate those who've taken time to sow seeds in my life and I'd like to continue their good works. If you have kind comments, suggestions, or constructive criticism - please share it! If my site is not for you, move on - no hate mail, please!

Starting Monday, I'll share more about myself and my goals for this site. See you soon and God bless you!